The church has been silent on sex for too long.
Pastor Travis and his wife Madison Carey have one of the most candid, biblically honest conversations about sex you’ll find anywhere — and they’re not tiptoeing around it. From hookup culture to the honeymoon suite, from purity culture wounds to what God actually designed sex to be — this episode covers it all.
They even address Alex Cooper and Call Her Daddy — one of the most downloaded podcasts in the world built entirely around sexual freedom, one night stands, and living by your feelings. Travis and Maddie break down exactly what that narrative is selling to young women, why the fairy tale ending looks so convincing on the surface, and what the story always leaves out.
The world says sex is freedom. There are no consequences. Sow your wild oats — you can always clean it up later. Purity is damaging.
God’s Word says something completely different.
In this episode Travis and Maddie walk through the 4 seasons every marriage moves through — and what the Bible has to say about sex in each one:
🔥 The Pursuit Season — How do you honor God physically while your hormones are raging? Why the lines you draw before the wedding show up inside the marriage. And the one question every dating couple should be asking themselves.
🔥 The Passion Season — The honeymoon is green light. But what happens when shame, past trauma, comparison, or a history of promiscuity walks into the room with you? Travis and Maddie get personal.
🔥 The Pressure Season — Kids. Careers. Exhaustion. The “touched out” feeling every young mom knows. Why the marriage bed is one of the first things to suffer when life gets full — and exactly how to protect it.
🔥 The Persevering Season — Aging, hormonal shifts, physical changes and what it looks like for a husband to truly dwell with his wife with understanding decades into marriage.
They also get into:
— What pornography actually does to the brain — and to a marriage — long before anyone walks down the aisle
— The purity culture conversation — where the church caused real damage, where it was right, and how to hold both
— What Paul means in 1 Corinthians 7 about the marriage bed — and why withholding is more serious than most couples realize
— The monogamy hormone — what science says actually bonds a husband and wife together over decades
— Their own story — drug addiction, promiscuity, rebuilding, and making it to their wedding night by the Grace of God
This episode is for you if you’re dating and trying to figure out where the lines are. If you walked into marriage carrying shame or trauma. If you’re years into marriage and the intimacy has quietly faded. If you grew up in church and purity culture left more wounds than wisdom. If you’re a parent trying to figure out how to have this conversation with your kids before the world does.
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